People say marriage is complicated. But the only thing that's really complicated about marriage is selecting the RIGHT mate. Selecting the "right" mate will determine 10 times out of 10 the success (or failure) of your marriage. Yes, building and maintaining a successful marriage is a lot of work, and it requires time, commitment, support, humility, compromise, patience, kindness, accountability, good communication, honesty, trust, forgiveness, compassion, intimacy, attentiveness, romance, laughter, unselfishness and self-sacrifice.
But I personally believe the most overlooked and underestimated component of a successful marriage is finding the "right" person. And the “right person” is one who is ready, willing, and emotionally and spiritually mature enough to be married.
That's why I decided to write Choosing the Right Mate God's Way: What You Need to Know Before You Go to the Altar. I wanted to share with you my school of hard knocks approach in "simplifying" the selection process. Because mate selection is at least half the battle. But please don't misunderstand me, picking "the right mate" won't guarantee you a successful marriage, but it will at least give you a fighting chance at avoiding a complicated divorce.
This process only has four (4) steps; and to be brutally honest with you, if you follow it faithfully (especially Steps 1 and 2), it will probably disqualify 99% of the people you date. But don't be discouraged. Have you ever heard the saying, "I can do bad all by myself?" Well, even if you have to reject, avoid, delay, or even terminate 99% of the relationships you experience, I believe it's better to end up successfully single than to end up unhappily married. And if you don't believe me, just ask anyone who's currently in a bad relationship or had to endure one.