The 10 Best Christian Books on Anger for Men Who Want to Win at Life
- Dr. Joe Martin
- 4 days ago
- 5 min read
Let’s be real Bro. If you’ve lived longer than about five minutes on this planet, you know what it feels like to deal with anger. Whether it’s your boss, your kids, your wife, your pastor, or the guy who just cut you off in traffic while sipping his latte…anger is real. It’s raw. And if left unchecked, it can be deadly.
I get it, and I’ve been there; from surviving physical abuse and addiction to deep-seated anger that could’ve wrecked my life forever if not for God's grace. And now, through Real Men Connect, I help Christian men win at what matters most without letting anger win first.
Because let’s face it: Real men feel anger, but godly men know how to handle it. And thankfully, we don't have to figure it all out on our own. (If we did, let's be honest, we'd just end up punching drywall and calling it "therapy.")
However, there are some powerful, biblical books out there that can help us tackle anger God's way. And based on 15+ years in men’s ministry and more than 900+ episode interviews on my top-rated podcast (Real Men Connect with Dr. Joe), here are 10 of my top picks (no particular order) - practical, powerful, and perfect for the man who’s tired of letting anger call the shots.
Best Christian Books on Anger - Ten Books To Guide & Shape Your Emotions
1. "Good and Angry" by David Powlison
Why it’s a game-changer: This book doesn’t tell you to suppress anger like it’s a bad burrito you regret eating. Instead, Powlison helps you understand that anger itself isn’t the enemy; sinful anger is.
Real talk: Powlison reminds us that even God gets angry, but in a holy, righteous way. He shows you how to express anger in ways that honor God and heal relationships (instead of burning them to the ground).
Favorite Quote:"Anger is not the problem; it’s what you do with it that matters."
2. "Overcoming Emotions That Destroy" by Chip Ingram
Why it hits home: This one feels like a counseling session with your wise uncle who actually listens. Chip Ingram walks you through the good, the bad, and the ugly of anger, from internal simmering to explosive outbursts.
Real talk: You’ll find real-world examples, biblical solutions, and tools for overcoming anger before it overcomes you.
Favorite Part: It gives practical strategies for three types of angry men: the spewers, the stuffers, and the leakers. (Yeah, you might find yourself in there.)
3. "Unoffendable" by Brant Hansen
Why it’s surprisingly hilarious (and convicting): Brant Hansen uses wit and wisdom to make you realize how easily offended we all are, and how being easily offended is not a spiritual gift.
Real talk: If you struggle with irritability (and let’s be honest, who doesn’t?), this book is a punch to your pride and a path to true peace.
Warning: You might laugh out loud, then immediately feel convicted. But that's a good thing.
4. "When Good Men Get Angry" by Bill Perkins
Why it’s perfect for Real Men: Bill Perkins understands that anger isn’t just a "bad guy" problem. Good, godly men struggle with it too.
Real talk: This book helps you get honest about your anger, understand the roots of it, and submit it to God’s control without losing your masculine edge.
Favorite Concept: Perkins teaches you how to use anger as a catalyst for godly action, not destruction.
5. "Uprooting Anger" by Robert D. Jones
Why it digs deep: This isn’t a “5 quick tips” book. Jones goes to the root, the sinful heart issues behind anger.
Real talk: If you’re ready to stop putting Band-Aids on bullet wounds and do the hard heart work, this one’s for you.
Bonus: It’s full of Scripture, not just good advice.
6. "Anger: Handling a Powerful Emotion in a Healthy Way" by Gary Chapman
Why it's marriage-saving: You know Gary Chapman from “The 5 Love Languages.” Yes, the love guy wrote about anger too.
Real talk: If your anger particularly shows up at home, this book teaches you how to fight fair, communicate better, and protect your marriage from your temper.
Especially helpful if: You want to stay married and not sleep on the couch.
7. "A Small Book about a Big Problem" by Edward T. Welch
Why it’s bite-sized brilliance: Each chapter is about two pages long perfect for the man who thinks “reading” means scrolling through ESPN headlines.
Real talk: It’s practical, gospel-centered, and easy to digest in short, powerful doses.
Perfect for: Morning devotions, lunch breaks, or those nights you’re too ticked off to fall asleep.
8. "The Heart of Anger" by Lou Priolo
Why it’s next-level: Priolo originally wrote this for parents dealing with angry kids - but spoiler alert - it’ll wreck you first (in the best way).
Real talk: You’ll learn how to recognize the selfish desires behind your anger and how to replace them with Christ-centered motives.
Especially convicting: It asks brutally honest questions most men avoid. Good luck squirming your way out; I couldn’t.
9. "Be Angry But Don't Blow It" by Lisa Bevere
Why it’s worth a look (even if it’s written by a woman): Don’t let the fact that Lisa’s a lady fool you, this book is a powerhouse.
Real talk: Bevere teaches that anger isn’t weakness; it's energy that needs to be surrendered, stewarded, and sanctified.
Bonus: Lisa is fiery, biblical, and refreshingly honest. You’ll appreciate her no-fluff, no-fear style. Need I say, she wrote this like a man?
10. "Killing Kryptonite" by John Bevere
Why it’s more than just about anger: While not solely focused on anger, Bevere shows how unchecked sin (like bitterness and anger) saps the strength from Christian men like Kryptonite did to Superman.
Real talk: If you’re tired of feeling powerless and angry at your failures, this book will show you how to reclaim your spiritual strength and freedom.
Big Takeaway: Anger doesn’t have to define you; the Spirit of God inside you does.
Before You Punch a Pillow (will a book on Christian anger REALLY solve your problem?)
Brother, if you’re serious about being the godly husband, father, and leader God created you to be, you can’t afford to let anger run your life. Anger is a feeling. Sinful rage is a choice. And thanks to these powerful books, you don't have to keep making the wrong one.
Now, let me be honest, reading a book alone won't fix it. Transformation happens when you apply what you learn...and when you surround yourself with other men who are running after the same goal.
That’s exactly why we created Real Men Connect and the Real Men 300 Brotherhood. At Real Men Connect, we help men:
Develop a closer walk with God
Love and lead their wives better
Break the chains of addiction and anger
Build bonds with godly men
Win at what matters most
And we make sure you don’t have to do life alone or get left behind. So, if you're tired of feeling like anger is winning the battle inside you, schedule a FREE Breakthrough Call with me. Let's start writing your comeback story… together.
Because real men don’t pretend they’re not angry; real men face it; real men feel it. And real men faithfully overcome it.
